I found an old gem of a picture and felt compelled to share a little background behind the friendship captured in it….
I was bullied really bad in 8th grade. It was so bad that almost the entire school was against me, and it all stemmed from me borrowing the jacket of a boy in my history class because it was so cold I was shivering, so he kindly lent me his jacket. His “popular” girlfriend was walking through the hall and looked into the classroom and she saw me wearing her boyfriend’s jacket. That was the beginning of what became the worst year of my teenage life, and my first real encounter with female animosity.
As an adult this all sounds so silly and insignificant (it is), but from a 15-year-old perspective, it was pure hell…she stalked me, prank called my house, spit on me, threatened me, called me a whore (I was a virgin), tried to beat me up, and even left my picture out of the school yearbook since she was on the yearbook committee. Because of her popularity, almost everyone followed her. I was totally alienated except for my ONE best friend, who stuck by my side even though it alienated her too.
Of course by 9th grade the drama was over and most everyone “accepted” me again, but the damage had already been done. I was insecure.
It wasn’t until later in life that I realized how lucky I actually was in 8th grade! Instead of having a bunch of fake friends, I had ONE best friend who sacrificed the approval of peers at such a sensitive age just to stand by my side and have my back!
That one friendship molded the way I viewed friends for the rest of my life, and ever since then I’ve only allowed positive, supportive, real and amazing women in my life!
As mothers we have to teach our daughters to heal each other, love each other, and support each other! We have to celebrate each other and never allow jealousy to make us hate another woman, especially over a man! (If your man would leave you for another woman then you don’t need to be jealous of other women, you need to find another man).
I am so thankful to my childhood best friend, Minke, for having my back during that dark time in my teenage life and setting the bar so high for future friendships!